I had a conversation with a student that is not used to being complimented on her work...or getting positive feedback for that matter. At first, she thought that I was joking around with her or being sarcastic.
When she realized that I was being serious, she got tears in her eyes and said, "thank you. I am only used to hearing what I am doing wrong."
In life, we often fall into the trap of only reminding others when they are doing wrong. We take for granted to things that they do well because that is what is expected. Somewhere down the line, we learned that when we are told what we are not good at...that somehow we will magically say, "Oh...now I get it. I am completely fixed and will do everything right from this point forward."
This is NOT how life works.
We need to focus on what is right...what is good...what has positive meaning. If we spend more time telling others what they are doing well, they will eventually figure out their shortcomings and greet them with confidence. If we help others to feel good about themselves and what they are doing...they are certainly more motivated to grow, get better, try harder.
We all want to feel worthwhile. It feeds our egos and makes us proud of who we are and the work that we do!
When we are constantly told that we are a failure...that is what we will be...because that is what we begin to believe we will always be.
Be Mindful.
Peace.
Mark Levine
#Mindfulliteracy
@LevineWrites
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